How we at times missed seeing our own faults.

Dear Blogger, Never have i expected the recent post created more twisted ends to the twisted area. My intentions upon writing the recent post was totally dedicated for the fine lad itself. It was even said and laid in an order of sending my message to her. Like I've mentioned, she called my mother in law up to get my number. She was looking for me. And how do i know for a fact that she have been reading my blog? Because she was asking my mom in law how was my son's surgery and even commented that he looked like my hubby. When mom in law asked how she knew all these? She answered that she read it on my blog. Also, it was to inform her on the means to get in touch with me and tell her what i have been bottling up, still she have to come digging old past again. Dearest Yati, Shireen, My dearest pal. I won't do what you guys want me to do. That's was never my intention in the first place and it will never be. I will not be the ones letting the cat out of the bag. And i hope you will not do the same mistakes as Kareem did. Bring shame upon his own Friend. If you guys really want to encourage me then do this for me. Tell me endlessly to be patient, be my strength to walk through the storm, smile with me on this childish game of tug of war and be my friends for a lifetime. Do not give any thing away please. Do not be like KAREEM. Let's look after our reputations. Higher our values. Do not let little comments give or anger us away. Losers act sorely, remember? Why be afraid? Truth always reveal, guilty ones always rebel. It's a matter of time. Let time do it's wonders no matter how long it may take. Kareem, How could you? How could you claim she's your friend when you, yourself bring her down. Here I am not revealing anything i have on her, there you are busting her. And you say FITNAH? Do you really know what it means? What about yourself? Aren't you sole single handedly going fitnah on me as well? Calling me names and say sorts. Have you talked to me and listened to my side of the story? See all that i have got? In ISLAM, it's not up to us to judge, it's up to ALLAH. Even the rules to settle an argument must be settled by witnesses whom should be listening to both sides of the stories and see all the evidence that carries. But not any Tom, Dick and Harry can be witnesses. The witnesses should be someone whom is fair, pious and honest. You have not talked to me or listened to my side of the story and you start saying me doing fitnah? Is that fair to call upon me when you're doing it? The way you say it with such nobility to point my mistakes but somehow you missed seeing that in you. This is what i called human. We tend to see the bitterness in others and not in ourselves. See others fault and flaunt it but save our faults and keep it buried. I may have done the way i did it wrongly but, is that how you wake others on their senses? You're also being a BATU API. If you're truly sincere to wake me up from my mistakes, you will not hina me and say me hati busuk or such but give me an advice instead on how to proper announce the matter. Not by adding more fuel to the fire. Does ISLAM allow us to be batu api? It is so clear that you wanted me to blow up on your comments and make me react to it, which it will looks like i'm giving myself away and others may read that I'm the guilty ones. And then, i'll start giving away informations on this girl to prove my innocences. After that fire will go ablaze even stronger. How Clever you set it out to be But Selfish! I won't let myself be tricked by you. Do you actually realise that you did your friend an injustice? You led everyone to where the water flows to? Anyways, AGAIN I'M SAYING THIS. Let this be between her and me. Don't make matter worst. It can only hurt more than bringing justice to it. Thank you for your dear comment. This is not retaliating but advising you not to be a batu api and make things worse on others fued. Batu Api is DOSA BESAR! To whom it may concerned, I apologised that matters get out of hand. I tried to as much to keep it low keyed but again you never liked the idea. All i'm asking from you, please respect our decisions and leave us alone. let bygones be bygones and we all start, move on with our own life. You be happy with yours and i shall be happy for mine. Instead of telling whose rights and whose at fault why don't we say prayers for each other. Be happy for each other but not envious of each other. Please do not miscontrued my words when i say envious. I'm not saying that you're envious of me. Please note on this. Do not include anymore of my hubby's name in your posts. You guys shared the bad experiences together but now you guys are having a great beauty in life experiences so why still linger with the bad old lots? Let's dig a deep hole till it reach the epicentre of the earth and bury it. With a plague saying History found and created. Bygones you shall be. Then move off and never to look back. Can that be done? Please. All i want is to be only with Hubby and the kids. for us to be happy as a family. Please grant me this wish. Stop fighting fire with fire. PLEASE! And to all, please ignore what have been said. DO not be too quick to judge. Kareem or anyone could have revealed whom the lad is but do not be taken in. You never know whether this Kareem a friend of hers or her worst enemy. Do not assume. You may think that it's her but what if it's wrong? Won't we be doing ourselves an injustice and worst create unfairness to the ones that have been wrongly judged and accused. Unless I said it myself then it's different. Until i have only myself to know, please DO NOT ASSUME. Even if you know the truth to the matter, keep it to yourself. Do not go on a hike to make wars prolong. Let the people involved deal the matter on their own. What you can do is encouraged them for the best, be their strength, say your prayer for them. But do not make matters worst. Lately, my life was filled up with great beautiful events and then this come along. I will not be angry over it or blame it on fate. As this is life. This is how ALLAH shows you he loves you. He gives some and he take some. Why? To let us always be rooted on the ground and know where it all came from and to make us realise our mistake and bring us back on the right paths. It's because he loves us that's why life is full of tribulations. He will not let misery stays on us for long. When he sees that it's our breaking point, he'll calm it for us and take it away. It's only a matter of time and being patient. We all make mistakes. Do not be afraid to admit to it. We should learn from the mistakes made as that will make us wiser and a better human being to go on our life journeys till it end for us. I have my own flaws and foibles too. I'm not afraid to admit so. There are times i missed my steps, did injustice to others be it by words or actions but when i come to realise it, i have a time of my own, doing some soul searching. What if what i did to others were to happen to me? How would i feel? From there I learned. Admit to my mistakes and improved on them. Then make up for what i did. I have this belief in me and i shall believed in for a lifetime. See our own flaws and shortcomings before seeing others. Learn from others mistakes but never laugh at others. Blame on ourselves before blaming it on others. We're not perfect. We all have loopholes in us. The only human that ALLAH created to be perfect is NABI MUHAMMAD SAW. He created the prophet for us to set him as an example and lead it. He created RASULLULLAH for us to learn and follow his sunnah. The way he speaks, the way he reacts on situations, the love and patience that win him over few hatred battles of others and the humbleness in him. He is guaranteed heaven but did he stop and idle ? No. But look at us? We do not even know where will we end up to? Yet, we're so sure of ourselves. We think we're great by all the possessions of life that we have acquired. When we forget to realise that it all came from ALLAH on borrowed times. To me, for what have happened shall have a reflection in my life. For me to realise my own mistakes and counter on it. Maybe, this is my DUGAAN. To test the love between my hubby and me. To test my patience, strengths and weaknesses. All i hope for, that it will turn up for the best in me. I believe that the great events have been coming for me and the worst takes its place due for better events to come. INSYA ALLAH. Bear this in mind, Rainy days never stays and sunshine is not always good. Let mouth go on saying things about me but i shall only go to him. The Almighty. He controls everything. Only he has the key and power to change the course and reveals the truth. I do not have the will or power to do so. Except with the help of ALLAH the ALMIGHTY. I shall pray HAJAT, INSYA ALLAH, seven straight days. Seek for his help to end this and may the truth be revealed. I shall also pray ISYTHIHARAH, INSYA ALLAH, after every solat. To let him lead me the way. Tell me what is the best solution for all these. Insya ALLAH, with great patience, all shall end. Only with the help of ALLAH. Since i have been doing this on my posts, i shall do it today. That's is doa. YA ALLAH, KAU LAH YG MAHA PENGASIH LAGI MAHA PENYAYANG. SESUNGUHNYA KAU LAH YG MAHA BERKUASA DALAM SEGALANYA. HANYA PADAMU AKU BERMINTA DAN PADAMU LAH AKU BERSERAH. BERIKANLAH AKU KEKUATAN DIRI UNTUK MENEMPUH HARI HARI DURI INI DAN BERIKANLAH AKU KEREDHAAN MU YA ALLAH. KUATKANLAH IMANKU, TEGUHKANLAH TIANG KESABARANKU. BERIKANLAH AKU KETENANGAN HATI DAN KELAPANGAN FIKIRAN. LIMPAHKANLAH PADAKU KASIH SAYANGMU, YA ALLAH. SEANDAINYA APA YANG TERJADI ADALAH KERANA KESILAPAN AKU SENDIRI, KAU BERIKANLAH KEAMPUNAN PADAKU, SESUNGGUHNYA KAU MAHA PENGAMPUN. BERI LAH AKU PERLINDUNGANMU YA ALLAH, KERANA AKU AKAN KEHILANGAN ARAH DAN TUJUANKU TANPA MU DAN KAU LAH YG TERBAIK DALAM MEMBERI PERLINDUNGAN. JIKA INI ADALAH BALASAN DARI KESILAPAN AKU DAN SUAMIKU, KAU BERIKANLAH KESEDARAN PADA KAMI KERANA KAMI LALAI DALAM MENJALANKAN KEHIDUPAN INI DAN AMPUNKANLAH KAMI, YA ALLAH. JAUH KANLAH KAMI DARI SIFAT HASSAD DENDAM DAN DENGKI MANUSIA, YA ALLAH DAN JUGA JAUHKAN KAMI DARI MEMPUNYAI SIFAT SIFAT TERSEBUT. SESUNGUHNYA YG BAIK DATANG DARIMU DAN YG BURUK ADALAH DARI KAMI SENDIRI. AIRMATA INI ADALAH TANDA KEINSAFAN KU, YA ALLAH. AKU BENAR BENAR BERSYUKUR ATAS SEGALA KASIH SAYANGMU DAN PADA APAYANG TELAH ENGKAU BERIKAN.BERIKANLAH AKU TAUFIK DAN HIDAYAHMU, YA ALLAH. AMIN To this, ALHAMDULLILAH. SYUKUR. The curvy roads i'm crossing right now is nothing compared to those having more plight than me.