My Side of the Story...

It has come to my attention that my name has caused a ripple in the blogosphere community because of some comments I made at my good friend's blog. The comments I've made have caused unhappiness in certain quarters and at the same time stained my reputation amongst our small community of bloggers. I hope this entry would help diffuse some of the tension as I feel it is only fair that you, my dear readers, would hear my side of the story. Even if after this, your perception of me has waned, then I have nothing else to say except to let time heal the wounds. When I tagged at my good friend's blog, it was with the knowledge that what we shared was in conjunction to her post about her plans in getting married. I did not insinuate whatsoever to follow others' footsteps other than myself, when I told my good friend that. I don't have to say everything in detail, my close friends and family can vouch for that. So in that respect, I was referring to none other than myself and not anyone else. And I had no idea whether or not you took a loan for your wedding. I just dunno from where this person got the idea I was referring to her when I myself dunno that she had taken a loan. Therefore I was quite taken aback by her latest entry, moreso by the tone and language used. As for the wedding at the hotel, the expensive gifts, the going back to work after getting married etc that were said, I put up my hands and admit I was at fault for being tactless. Never would I put anyone down for what they believed in and if anyone felt vexed and angered over what I said, then I would like to take this opportunity to apologise for my words. Upon reflection, I should have thought of the consequences when I said those things. It did not dawn on me that my words would be misunderstood and taken the wrong way. I really, really did not mean to insinuate anyone and I had no idea that what I had said, actually reflected on someone in our small community. I was merely telling my friend jokingly to take a loan so she could pamper herself for her wedding. She could have her own array of expensive gifts if she would take up the loan. All these I said were meant in jest, and never to hint at anyone in particular. If I had wanted to slag someone off, I would have done so from the comfort of my blog. But slagging people off is not and never will be my style. Not even on somebody else's blog. When I said, "tapi ader org buat wdding sampai loan bank just to menunjuk..dah tu cakap besar..now pekung terbuka..malu sendiri", that was in response to someone who replied and said it's better not to owe people money. My comments were general and off-the-cuff. I did not expect the person who felt aggrieved by my words to read too much into it. Most importantly, I did not know that this person had taken a loan until she admitted it herself in her entry. Again I apologise to the person who felt enraged by my harmless comments and hope that you, my dear readers would at least understand from my point of view. I admit it was a cardinal sin to be tactless with the things I've said. I do not know the goings-on in this person's life at present and if I had said something that might hit a nerve, then I apologise for the uncanny coincidence. The cyberspace is a vicious platform. Words can be misconstrued, words can be manipulated. Sometimes when one comments on something in general, more often than not, certain individuals will be bound to feel the backlash. I really regret what has happened but I have nothing against this person whatsover, God be my witness. This episode has made me realise that sometimes saying things in jest can be misunderstood by others. It has been a painful lesson to learn, but life still has to go on. I'm not begging for anyone's sympathy over this whole ordeal. I just want to protect, uphold and maintain my honour and reputation in the eyes of the blogosphere community. The rest is up to you, my dear readers to judge. God bless...