Is it fair?

I can never understand why. Why is that it is ok for people to create entries after entries about either my husband, me or any part of me but when I created an entry to let out the pain that I have been feeling, they called me cruel. They blamed me for it. When all these started from that person herself. There was entries that was made about me and I became the laughing item. Her comment box was flooded by nasty comments that did hurt me. But, I do not blame them as they only read from one side and believed that I am the guilty party. What hurt me was the entries that was created and things that was said to me. This person even gave me a pet name. It sounded like a dog's name. She wrote a long poem and I was again made to be the laughing item. My sanity was almost ripped off and my dignity was down the drain. And yet, what did I do? I kept on living my life. I just ignored what was done unto me. My entries as usual was always about me and my life. It was hard, but I carried on. I braved through the stormy weather and I kept telling myself to be patient. I had to go through sleepless nights, chest pains and I cried buckets. But I still maintained my cool until i could not take another inch of the torture. How come, when this person called my mother-in-law up, it is ok and when I was sincerely trying to end the whole saga by smsing the mother for a meet up together with my family, an entry was created. And what gives her the right to take away my dignity by creating entries after entries about me. I was badly trampled. Badly accused. And when I told both of my parents(hub's and mine) to call the other party's mother up, they told me that it is not wise for them to do it for the only heard my part of the story and I should be the one calling. They will be there if the meet up was going to take place. But yesterday, I received a phone call from the other party's mother. Her mother asked me what is wrong. No, not in a way of asking but was raising her voice. When I told her that why are you reprimanding me? Why don't you ask her what she did? She in turn called me rude and even said, "awak ingat awak tu mengandung, jgn kurang ajar". Even asked me why I kept making her daughter's life miserable. I tried to explain but was never given the chance. Trina was there with me when this happened, I turned on the speaker. Everything that was shoot at me was witnessed by Trina. Kurang ajar? When I was never given the chance to explain and was being reprimanded at the top of her voice, cursing my pregnancy and was even said awak orang Islam tapi macam tak berugama. Is that fair? I was furious. And I hung up obviously knowing that this will not be a good confrontation. But then, they called me up again and this time it is the grandmother. I let her say her piece without interrupting. Trina and I both listened to it. I was even told to go to Tehran. Kalau awak suka sangat bergaduh, pergi Tehran tempat orang bergaduh. I mean come on. Dear Bloggers, You be my witness, who was the one making whose life miserable? Who is the one that endlessly making entries to hit who on the head? All this while, I have been blogging only about my life. No matter how angered or upset I felt, I never once retaliated to all the criticism that was thrown or spat unto me. I kept it in me. I could throw all this out before, but I just ignored it until I truly can't take it anymore. I even said to the grandmother how come it is ok for her to write about me and when I was only letting my feeling out, you come calling. And again I was said rude and reminded that I am pregnant, so I better watch my steps. I was even reminded that I have tiga ekor meaning three children. Ekor? Are my babies binatang? Is this the way an adult should approach? Is it ok for an adult to say anything to you even when they were cursing you? If they were hurt by what the daughter is feeling. How about me? What about how I felt? My husband was badly shamed, I was too and even my baby. And that is ok? It is not ok for theirs but it is ok for mine? Why is it that you can do it to me? When you slapped me in the face with the embarrassment in the eyes of the public, letting out your anger without regards of my feelings, it is ok. And when I am only quoting and re-quoting what you said about me and let out my anger, it is not? Why? If you feel upset, embarrassed even tormented by it, what about me? Whatever you are feeling now, that was how I felt. But I was merely re-quoting everything, while you did write about me. Tell me now, is that fair? If you feel that it is unfair for you that I poured out all my feelings, then why in the first place you even started all these. You started it! When your grandmother kept on your defense that you apologized to me. Now, I ask you. Was there any apology? Never! Hurt? Yes. And I am telling you, I will report yesterday's incident as harassment. For I do not wish to entertain and made myself in a stupor which in turn will affect the little life in me. They kept calling me. Shouldn't they read all that was written by you on me first before deciding to attack me? I mean things won't happen without reasons. It takes two hands to clap. Please back off. Do what you need to do. I am not afraid! You started the whole saga, not me. You know what you did. And please remind yourself, how would you feel if someone was to blog about your husband, bad, vicious things on him and you received a call from a friend asking if your marriage is ok? How would you feel? I was badly upset by it! Try being in my shoes and you know what it is like. If you can put steam off, why can't I? Do not hurt others, if you do not wish to hurt yourself. You are hurt by your very own doing. Think about it. P.S: People, my husband was not the one that dumped her. She found herself another guy. But even after that, the torments never end. I too do not understand why. She said that she was letting out her anger. Anger on what basis? Only she has the answer to all.